THERE is A POLITICAL
STRATEGY IN IT
The women like to be
attractive because that gives power; the more attractive they are, the more
powerful they are over men.
And who does not want
to be powerful?
Their whole lives
people are struggling to be powerful.
Why do you desire
money? -- it will bring power.
Why do you want to
become the prime minister or the president of a country? -- it will bring
Why do you want
respectability, prestige? -- it brings power.
Why do you want to
become a saint? -- it brings power.
People are searching
for power in different ways.
You have not left women
any other sources to be powerful -- only one outlet: their bodies.
That's why they are
continuously interested in being more and more attractive.
Have you not watched
it, that the modern woman does not care so much about being attractive? Why?
Because she is entering into other kinds of power politics.
The modern woman is
getting out of the old bondage.
She will fight the man
in the universities for the degrees; she will compete in the marketplace; she
will compete in politics.
She need not be worried
too much about looking very attractive.
Man has never bothered
much to look attractive.
Why? That has been left
completely to women.
For women that was the
only source to attain some power.
And for men there were
so many other sources that to look attractive looked a little bit effeminate,
That is for women.
This has not been
There was a time in the
past when women were AS free as men. Then men used to be interested in being
attractive as much as women were.
Look at Krishna, his
picture -- with beautiful silk robes, with a flute, with all kinds of
ornaments, earrings, with a beautiful crown made of peacock feathers.
Look at him! He looks
Those were the days
when men and women were absolutely free to do whatsoever they wanted to do.
Then came a long, long,
dark age when women were repressed.
It happened because of
the priests and your so-called saints.
Your saints have
always been afraid of women, because the woman seems to be so powerful -- the
woman seems to be so powerful that she can destroy the saint's sainthood within
It is said that a
mother tries for twenty-five years to make her son wise, and then comes a
woman, and within two minutes she makes a fool of him.
That's why mothers can
never forgive daughters-in-law.
Never! It took
twenty-five years for the poor old woman to give some intelligence to this man,
and within two minutes all is gone!
How can she forgive
It is because of your
saints that women were condemned -- they were afraid of women.
The women have to be
And because women were
repressed, all sources of competing in life, flowing in life, were taken away.
Then there was only one
thing left: their bodies.
You ask me: WHY DO
WOMEN LIKE TO BE ATTRACTIVE TO MEN?
That's why -- that is
their only power.
And who does not want
to be powerful?
Unless you understand
that power only brings misery, power is destructive, violent; unless through
understanding your desire for power disappears -- who does not like to be
And you ask:... BUT
WHEN THEY WANT TO BE ATTRACTIVE TO MEN, WHY DO THEY ALSO RESENT THEIR SEXUAL
For the same
The woman remains
powerful only when she goes on hanging in front of yoU like a carrot -- never
available and always available, so close and so far away.
Then only is she
If she immediately
falls into your lap, then the power is gone.
And once you have
exploited her sexuality, once you have used her, she is finished, she has no
more power over you.
So she attracts you and
yet keeps aloof.
She attracts you, she
provokes you, she seduces you, and when you come close to her, she simply says
Now that is simple
If she says yes, you
reduce her to a mechanism; you use her.
And nobody wants to be
It is the other side of
the same power politics.
Power means the
capacity to use the other, and when somebody uses you your power is gone, you
are reduced to powerlessness.
So no woman wants to be
And you have been
doing that down the ages.
Love has become an ugly
It should be the
greatest glory, but it is not -- because man has been using woman and the woman
resents it, resists it, naturally.
She does not want to be
reduced to a commodity.
That's why you will
see husbands just wagging their tails around their wives and their wives in
such an attitude that they are above all this nonsense -- holier-than-thou.
The wives go on
pretending that they are not interested in sex, ugly sex.
They are as much
interested as you are interested, but the problem is: they cannot show their
interest, otherwise you immediately reduce them to powerlessness, you start
So they are interested
in everything else, in being very attractive to you and then denying you.
That is the joy of
Pulling you -- and you
are pulled almost as if pulled by strings -- and then saying no to you.
Reducing you to
And you are wagging
your tail like a dog -- then the woman enjoys.
This is an ugly state.
This should not be
This is an ugly state
because love has been reduced to power politics.
This has to be
We have to create a
new humanity, and a new world, in which love will not be a question of power at
At least take love out
of power politics; leave money, leave politics there -- leave everything there,
but take love out of it.
Love is something
immensely valuable; don't make it a thing of the marketplace.
But that's what has
The recruit had just
arrived at a Foreign Legion post in the desert. He asked his corporal what the
men did for recreation. The corporal smiled wisely and said, "You will
see." The young man was puzzled. "Well, you've got more than a
hundred men on this base and I don't see a single woman." "You will
see," the corporal repeated. That afternoon, three hundred camels were
herded into the corral. At a signal, the men seemed to go wild. They leaped
into the corral and began to make love to the camels. The recruit saw the
corporal hurrying past him and grabbed his arm. "I see what you mean, but
I don't understand," he said. "There must be three hundred of those
camels and only about a hundred of us. Why is everybody rushing? Can't a man
take his time?" "What?" exclaimed the corporal, startled.
"And get stuck with an ugly one?"
Nobody wants to get
stuck with an ugly one -- even though it is a camel.
So who wants to get
stuck with an ugly woman?
The woman tries in
every way to be beautiful -- at least to LOOK beautiful.
And once you are
trapped into her allurements, she starts escaping from you, because that is the
If you start escaping
from her, she will come close to you, she will start following you.
The moment you start
following her, she will start escaping.
This is the game!
This is not love: this
But this is what is
happening and has been happening down the ages.
At least in my commune
this has to disappear.
Each person has
tremendous dignity, and no person can ever be reduced to a commodity, to a
Respect men, respect
women -- they are all divine.
And forget the old
idea that it is man who makes love to the woman -- that is so stupid.
It makes it feel as if
man is the doer and the woman is just there as something to be done
Even in the language
it is man who makes love, it is man who is the acting partner; it is the woman
who is just there, a passive receptivity.
This is not true.
Both are making love to
each other, both are doers, both are participants -- the woman in her OWN way.
Receptivity is her WAY
of participating, but it is participation as much as the man's.
And don't think that
only you are doing something to the woman: she is also doing something to you.
You are both doing
something tremendously valuable to each other.
You are offering
yourselves to each other; you are sharing your energies with each other.
You are BOTH offering
yourselves in the temple of love, in the temple of the god of love.
It is the god of love
who has possessed both of you.
It is a very sacred
You are walking on holy
And then there will be
a totally different quality to people's behaviour.
It is good to be
It is ugly to appear to
It is good to be
attractive, but it is ugly to manage to be attractive.
That management is
And people are
That is no need for
All make-up is ugly.
It makes you more and
The beauty is in
simplicity, in innocence, in being natural, in being spontaneous.
And when you are
beautiful, don't use that beauty as power politics -- that is profaning it,
that is sacrilegious.
Beauty is a gift of
Share, but don't use
it in any way for domination, for possessing the other.
And your love will
become a prayer, and your beauty will become an offering to God.
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